This is amazing. We never expected her to live this long. Her health over recent years has been quite poor so we are delighted that she is so well. Mum is not very mobile. She uses a walker around the house and we take a wheel chair for Drs. visits as she is not usually able to manage much more than 20 or 30 metres/yards on her own legs.
Mum is very much in control of her own life and manages all her affairs. We talked her into having breakfast in bed a couple of years ago as her medication and heart condition makes her very slow getting started each day. Usually she reads the newspaper and does the puzzles before getting up. She still baths or showers herself. It is a very bad day that Mum does not get dressed. Mum potters in the kitchen often getting her own morning tea, lunch, and even dinner if it doesn't take too much preparation. On good days she does little chores like her own laundry. She fusses over her two Rag-doll cats and spends the rest of the day reading, writing to family and friends, (in spite of poor eyesight), watching TV and nodding off to sleep.
Last November Mum was not as well as this and she spent no time in her kitchen. Sometime during the year we had even arranged for a personal carer to come once a week to help with bathing and washing her hair.
Mum used to go for a swim in the sea every morning from December to May. I think her last swim was about 4 years ago. That is something because our sea is not warm except for a few days in late January and February. Today Mum says she doesn't miss swimming because her body just feels too weary and the thought of it is no longer appealing. Instead she watches all the activity on the beach from her chair. She has a lovely view and enjoys telling us which families are on holiday and trying to remember the names of all the children. Of course there have been many changes over the years and there are many people on 'our' beach who we don't know.
This day is also clouded with our grief for Jenny. Yesterday the Doctors declared her brain dead. Life support was continued until her daughter arrived from Bali and the organ transplant team were ready. As yet we don't know which day her funeral will be.
Over the last 24 hours I've been trying to make sure that everyone who we had invited to the Birthday Party on Saturday know what is going on and that we've cancelled it. Some cousins have opted to come anyway because they have travel arrangements in place and Mum will not be going to the funeral.
We believe Jenny fell asleep at the wheel less than 15 minutes from home. I have plenty to say but that's for another day. Meantime please don't drive when weary. Please take regular rest breaks. Don't take risks. Even if you don't care for your own life remember the aftermath of a serious accident is horrible for your friends and family.
On that sombre note I'm off to make our dessert for lunch and think about Mum for the rest of the day. Hope to have some nice photos to add later.